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Why doesn’t BDSM community receive the same respect as other alternative lifestyles like the LGBTQ community does…

For several years we in the BDSM community have hidden behind shadows because of people’s narrow minded prejudice against the BDSM lifestyle. Just recently Littlefield which has a heavy BDSM orientated grid was listed on HG Business for leading in the Opensimulator grid survey.  Almost immediately the ugly bigotry and prejudice crept in with a comment by one of the users named 1derworld – “Who would of thunk low self esteem and BDSM would be the large population in opensims :(”  Now I have to wonder if Littlefield was a Gay / Lesbian or Transgender grid if the same type of remark would have been forthcoming.  I suspect it wouldn’t have.  To assume or insinuate that a group of people has low self esteem because they choose to have an alternative lifestyle is nothing short of bigotry.

I’d like to site another example…  Recently, one of the members of HG Vision’s Magazine made a request that we create an article regarding the BDSM themed regions on Littlefield Grid.  We received our reply from Sunbeam Magic the editor of HG Vision’s Magazine today – “I regret to inform you this, but the Vision’z Staff Team voted NO on accepting your article, citing HG VISIONZ is more of a family magazine and they thought the BDSM theme does not fit in with our format.”  Again, there’s that uninformed bigotry in action.  The article in question had NO sexual overtones, photos, etc.. anywhere.  However because the letters BDSM were prominent in the article, the article has no place in the “family” magazine.  Again, I can’t help but wonder if this article was about a TG, Lesbian, or Gay grid and what it has to offer for that community if it would have received the same response?  Anyone who is interested in the article is more than welcome to request it from us.  You’ll find there is nothing “Adult” or “Offensive” in a sexual nature at all in it.

For those people who watch too many movies, and read too many dime novels,  BDSM isn’t 50 shades of Grey, nor is it Story of “O”.  BDSM is a “lifestyle” just like any other alternative lifestyle.  In the primary case of most people who participate in the BDSM lifestyle, they participate in D/s which means Dominant – Submissive.  Simply put… one person is the Dominant and one person is the Submissive.  It is as simple as that.  It isn’t too unlike “who wears the pants in the family” in a standard married relationship.  The difference is that the D/s partners put a label on their positions.  That doesn’t mean people are beat, whipped, chained, etc.. 24×7 wandering around naked continually.  That would be illogical and nobody can live that kind of lifestyle.

BDSM although it has many factions of bondage, etc.. attached to it, it doesn’t necessarily mean any of that is part of the BDSM lifestyle on a whole.  If the parties involved choose to go that route, that’s a decision they BOTH make.  Not too unlike people in a standard married relationship playing “bedroom bondage” games or playing with sex toys.  Yet you don’t see them condemned for their lifestyle choice.  The collar that a Submissive wears is no different than a ring on the finger of a married couple.  In some cases the collar isn’t even a collar but some other discreet object worn as a reminder that you have a commitment to your Dominant.

It is unfortunate that the BDSM community continues to have this stigma attached to it that the people involved are somehow perverted or sexually deviant simply because they choose to address their partners as Dominant or Submissive.  In all the years I’ve been involved in the community, I’ve found that BDSM’ers tend to have longer lasting and deeper relationships than most married couples in fact.  How many times in the Virtual World as an example do you see people partnered/unpartnered several times in a short period.  Most people I’ve met in the BDSM community are with their partners for years.  Case in point, both of my Submissives have been with me well over 5 years.

Why is that you might ask?  The partners who accept and live this lifestyle have respect for each other and the other partner’s position.  And, the BDSM community also has zero prejudice toward other alternative lifestyles such as the Transgender, Gay, or Lesbian communities.  The BDSM community tends to have respect for ALL people’s likes as long as they are legal and not an attack or hurting a group or person directly.

In conclusion, given the open nature of the world today, and how accepting that the rest of the world has become to the LGBTQ community, maybe the same consideration could be given to the BDSM community since our way of life is no different than anyone elses.  Take the time to talk with people who are involved in the BDSM community for a change, and you’ll be surprised to find out they aren’t at all what you THINK they are based on what you THINK you know from watching TV, Movies, or reading fiction.

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Posted by on November 14, 2017 in News

 

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7th Annual OpenSim Grid Survey – Littlefield received the highest overall scores

Hypergrid Business 7th OpenSim Grid Survey – the results are in and Littlefield Grid has taken the lead this year.

“Littlefield received a perfect score for support, and had the highest scores for technology and community.” (*quote Hypergrid Business)

*screen grab from Hypergrid Business page

Thank you to all our wonderful residents and the HG community that voted for us. You make the grid fantastic!!

Link to survey results click here

Littlefield Grid prides itself on community. We work very hard to provide a fun, happy and safe environment for our residents and visitors, so we are very happy that we scored highly on this section.

We are so very happy that you all think we have wonderful content on our grid. We work hard to source the best content for our grid and we have some of the best content creators in the virtual world.

We are very happy that those who voted said we provide a fast and lag-free grid and that we respond to any issues in a timely fast manner. We owe a big thank you to Walter Balazic, Ashton Nobilis & Admins for the fast and efficient way our grid runs on a daily basis.

Below are some of the resident/visitor comments Littlefield Grid received.

*source Hypergrid Business page

“I’ve been there since day one,” said one Littlefield resident. “My sim has never gone down not even once. It’s lag free, and anytime I’ve needed anything the admins reply almost immediately. What more can I ask?”

“The sense of community provides a wonderfully friendly and social atmosphere,” said one Littlefield resident. “Highly recommended for overall magnificent quality.”

“This grid has the best BDSM content out there, and the nicest community I ever met,” said one Littlefield resident. 

“Everyone I have met on this grid are friendly and helpful. Most beautiful builds in OpenSim.”

“FINALLY a real BDSM grid in OpenSim! Now I can leave Second Life!”

“I have been a member of Littlefield Grid for almost four years and in that time the management has always provided optimum performance and support. The range of content is superb and always updated and the sense of community provides a wonderfully friendly and social atmosphere. Highly recommended for overall magnificent quality.”

“It should be noted that Littlefield Grid admins actually live on the grid, and interact extensively with the other residents.”

“Littlefield Grid is a hidden jewel featuring so many uniquely themed sims. The sims are so cheap to rent, the prim count allowed to the user is amazing and the support is extremely professional, fast responses too. It’s my number one OpenSim grid since leaving Second Life.”

“Littlefield has by far the most effective and responsive admin team. The regions run smoother than anywhere else. I respect their content policy which makes me feel that they respect creators. And they are really friendly and welcoming, and fun to be around.”

“Lots of great role play and public sims to investigate. Great weekly dance party!”

“The content here is amazing and it’s all free, and all original content not like you see on any other grid.”

“The grid runs more smoothly than any other and the content available is unsurpassed, but the emphasis on COMMUNITY is what really sets Littlefield apart. This is a grid where people matter and they really take good care of us. It’s not a wild west situation like some grids, on Littlefield bad actors are not tolerated, and that means that it is a safe place. It is not just a tech toy for the owners; it is a welcoming, friendly community of real people. I would never live anywhere else.”

“This grid has the best BDSM content out there, and the nicest community I ever met. Everyone is helpful and friendly. The support people are great also, they respond to any questions I have right away.”

Thank you all again to our residents and hypergrid visitors for all the wonderful feedback you provided in this survey.  We are so happy that we are providing you with a grid that you can call home and enjoy visiting.

 

 
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Posted by on November 4, 2017 in News

 

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Xi Shi’s 4th annual Guy Fawkes Bonfire Dance!!

Xi Shi’s 4th annual Guy Fawkes Bonfire Dance – Littlefield Grid

Sunday November 5th 2017- 2pm PDT

hg: lfgrid.com:8002:Ruritania-V

 
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Posted by on October 20, 2017 in Events

 

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Littlefield Grid’s Halloween Island is now open

Littlefield Grid is pleased to announce that our Halloween Region is now open until November 1st 2017.

This is the 5th year of our Halloween region, it’s full of scary fun things to explore.  Take the hayride around the sim or perhaps the scary balloon ride.

Stop by Bates Motel but i warn you not to check in, visit the haunted house but be ready for anything!!

Halloween Annual Dance: Saturday October 28th – 8pm PST

Live DJ with fabulous music

Dress up and come join us for a night of music, fun & laughter.

Hypergrid: lfgrid.com:8002:Halloween Island 

Local: Log into Littlefield sim & go through the doorway to the Halloween Region

 
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Posted by on September 29, 2017 in Events

 

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Pictures from Grand Opening of Battersea Doll Factory at the Latex Lounge – Battersea Region

We had a fab Grand Opening Dance of our new Battersea Doll Factory at the Latex Lounge – Battersea Region

 
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Posted by on April 22, 2017 in Events

 

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Grand Opening of our Latex Fetish Region – Battersea Doll Factory!!

Come join us at Littlefield Grid for the Grand Opening of our Latex Fetish Region – Battersea Doll Factory!!

 
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Posted by on April 19, 2017 in Events

 

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RLV Easter Hunt 2017 at Stonehaven!!

RLV Easter Hunt 2017 at Stonehaven!!

hg: lfgrid.com:8002:Stonehaven

Must have RLV active and wear a relay!!

www.lfgrid.com

 
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Posted by on April 16, 2017 in Events

 

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